HOW TO EXTRACT THE LESSONS IN ORDER TO BREAK FREE
HAVE YOU EVER HEARD THAT SAYING “GOING AROUND THAT SAME MOUNTAIN?” LET ME TELL YOU….. I HAVE TRAVELED AROUND THE SAME MOUNTAINS SO MANY TIMES I WORE A PATH AROUND IT. MAKING THE SAME MISTAKES, STAYING STUCK IN THE SAME OLD PATTERNS, ATTRACTING THE SAME TYPE OF PEOPLE AND THE SAME DRAMA. WE STAY GOING DOWN THAT SAME PATH, AROUND THE SAME MOUNTAIN BECAUSE WE HAVEN'T LEARNED THE LESSON. HERE’S A TIP… WHEN YOU ARE GOING THROUGH SOMETHING OR FIND YOURSELF REPEATING THE SAME THING OVER AND OVER AGAIN… STOP AND ASK GOD “WHAT ARE YOU TRYING TO TEACH ME HERE.”
“Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know.” ~Pema Chodron
WHEN YOU NOTICE THAT THE SAME PAIN POINTS KEEP COMING UP, WHEN YOU REALIZE YOU KEEP DATING THE SAME TYPE OF GUY; THE WRONG TYPE ASK YOURSELF DID YOU LEARN THE LESSON YOU WERE SUPPOSED TO LAST TIME OR DID YOU JUST RUN AWAY FROM WHATEVER ISSUES THERE WHERE. DID YOU UNPACK THE DIRTY LAUNDRY FROM YOUR PAST OR DID YOU JUST SHOVE IT IN A SUITCASE? UNTIL YOU EXTRACT THE LESSON AND DO THE WORK ON YOURSELF YOU WILL BE A REPEAT OFFENDER, AT YOUR OWN EXPENSE. YOU CAN RUN, BUT YOU CAN'T RUN FROM YOURSELF AND YOUR OWN INSECURITIES AND SELF-DOUBT.
THERE HAS BEEN SO MANY TIMES IN MY OWN LIFE I JUST WANTED TO RUN FAR, FAR AWAY AND START OVER. SADLY, DOWN DEEP I KNEW THAT RUNNING FROM A PLACE OR A PERSON WASN'T GOING TO HELP ME ANY BECAUSE I KNEW I COULDN'T AVOID THE PAIN I WAS RUNNING FROM. THAT PAIN WAS IN MY HEAD AND IN MY HEART AND IT WILL FOLLOW YOU UNTIL YOU FACE IT NO MATTER HOW FAR YOU TRY TO RUN. YOU CAN PUT DISTANCE ON A MAP BETWEEN YOU AND A PLACE OR PERSON, BUT YOU CAN DISTANCE YOURSELF FROM YOURSELF.
IF YOU ARE TRYING TO RUN FROM A RELATIONSHIP OR IF YOUR MOUNTAIN IN A RELATIONSHIP I WANT YOU TO KNOW THIS: RELATIONSHIPS, GOOD OR BAD, REFLECT WHAT IS GOING ON INSIDE US.
IF YOU FEEL UNWORTHY OF HAPPINESS OR RESPECT OR YOU KEEP FINDING PARTNERS THAT TREAT YOU POORLY IT IS BECAUSE YOU DON'T ACCEPT YOURSELF OR YOU WORTH. YOU HAVEN'T UNPACKED PAST HURT WHATEVER IT IS. IT COULD EVEN BE FROM YOUR CHILDHOOD. ONCE YOU HAVE LEARNED THAT LESSON YOU WILL NO LONGER ACCEPT OR SETTLE FOR A RELATIONSHIP YOU KNOW ISN'T RIGHT FOR YOU.
AS MUCH AS YOU WOULD LIKE TO LEARN THE LESSON WITHOUT THE PAIN YOU CAN'T. YOU DIDN'T LEARN FIRE WAS HOT UNTIL YOU PUT YOUR HARD ON THE FLAME, YOU DIDN'T LEARN LOVE COULD BREAK YOUR HEART UNTIL YOU FELL IN LOVE. YOU HAD TO LIVE THROUGH THE PAIN IN ORDER TO LEARN THE LESSON SO YOU COULD MOVE FORWARD AND KNOW WHAT YOU KNOW NOW. THE QUICKER YOU LEARN THE LESSON GOD IS TRYING TO TEACH YOU SOON YOU WILL MOVE ON.
SO IF YOU FIND YOURSELF GOING AROUND THAT SAME OLD TIRED MOUNTAINS IN YOUR LIFE DO YOURSELF A FAVOR AND ASK GOD “WHAT ARE YOU TRYING TO TEACH ME?” ONCE YOU HAVE LEARNED THAT LESSON BE GRATEFUL FOR THE EXPERIENCE, BECAUSE GOOD, BACK OR INDEFERENCE, IT IS MAKING YOU INTO A BETTER, WISER AND HAPPIER PERSON MOVING FORWARD.
Sadly, love is not all you need in a relationship. Love is not the only key ingredient to a good, healthy relationship.
There is a saying: “rejection is God’s protection.” Not everyone who comes into your life are supposed to remain in it. People are here for a season, a reason, or a lifetime. I’m sure you have had a friend that you thought would stay in your life forever, only to find after a few years you two never talk anymore. Heartbreak often teaches us it is better to close some doors because they don't lead anywhere and some doors not only need to be closed by they need boarded up forever.
Heartache is also to teach us that as much as we think that person was the reason we were happy, they are not. One of the lessons to learn is that only you are responsible for your own happiness. Giving that key to someone else can only lead to heartbreak. We are supposed to be two healthy humans separately who come together to enhance each other, not “complete” each other, you are a complete person all by yourself.
Each of us want to be needed, loved and respected. They ultimate lesson we are to learn in this life is: Nobody can do any of that for you, you have to love and respect yourself regardless if you are in a relationship with someone else or not. The relationship you have with yourself is the most important relationship you will ever form on this earth.
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