• Gina Kendall Lusardi

WHAT ROLE DID YOU HAVE AND HOW CAN YOU LEARN FROM IT



THIS IS ONE OF THOSE VIDEOS THAT COULD STING A LITTLE, JUST GONNA PUT THAT OUT THERE.


WE HAVE ALL BEEN IN LESS THAN IDEA SITUATIONS OR RELATIONSHIPS AND WE HAVE ALL PLAYED A ROLE IN THEM. WHILE CIRCUMSTANCES MAY HAVE BEEN OUT OF YOUR CONTROL, HOW YOU REACTED OR PARTICIPATED IS SOLELY ON YOU WHETHER YOU WANT TO ADMIT IT OR NOT.IT COULD HAVE BEEN SOMETHING AS SIMPLE AS BLAMING YOUR LITTLE SISTER FOR BREAKING SOMETHING THAT YOU ACTUALLY BROKE OR AS COMPLEX AS ACTUALLY PLAYING THE VICTIMS ROLE WILLINGLY.


A VICTIM IS A PERSON WHO SUFFERS FROM A DESTRUCTIVE OR INJURIOUS ACTION OR AGENCY. HE OR SHE IS SOMEONE WHO IS COMPLETELY SUBJECT TO THE ENVIRONMENT AROUND THEM. THEY HAVE LITTLE TO NO CONTROL OVER THEIR CIRCUMSTANCES.

WE HAVE ALL PLAYED A ROLE IN EVERY UNFAIR, UNJUST EVENT THAT HAS HAPPENED. ALL OF US, MYSELF INCLUDED.


WHEN YOU HAVE A VICTIM MENTALITY YOU HAVE TROUBLE ACCEPTING YOUR CONTRIBUTION TO A PROBLEM OR EVENT. YOU HAVE A TENDENCY TO NOT ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR ROLE IN IT. HAVE YOU EVER HAD SOMETHING HAPPEN TO YOU AND YOU IMMEDIATELY POINT THE FINGER OR THROW THE OTHER GUY UNDER THE BUS? I WANT YOU TO LOOK AT IT FROM A NEW SET OF GLASSES, WHAT WAS YOUR ROLE IN IT? WHERE WAS THE MOMENT THAT YOU COULD HAVE SIMPLY WALKED AWAY AND STAYED AWAY? WHERE WAS THE MOMENT YOU COULD HAVE SPOKEN UP?


WHEN YOU START THE “WHEN HE…” OR THE “I DIDN'T…” YOU STEP INTO VICTIM MODE, LIKE IT OR NOT. WHEN YOU STEP INTO THE SHOES OF THE VICTIMS YOU ARE SAYING TO YOURSELF THAT YOU DIDN'T HAVE ANY POWER IN THE SITUATION. IS IT TRUE? DID YOU ACTUALLY HAVE NO POWER OR CONTROL OF YOURSELF AND YOUR LIFE OR DID YOU JUST GO WITH WHAT WAS HAPPENING AS TO NOT UPSET THING? IT IS ONE THING TO BE A VICTIM IT IS ANOTHER TO MAKE THE CHOICE TO BE VICTIMIZED.


DO YOU KNOW SOMEONE WHO CARRIES AROUND AN ARSENAL OF GRIEVANCES LIKE A CACHE OF WEAPONS?


THEY ARE ALWAYS ON DEFENSE AND WHEN YOU OR SOMEONE ELSE TRIES TO HOLD THEM ACCOUNTABLE THEY PULL THOSE BAD BOYS OUT AND FIRE AT WILL. THE HURL THE “POOR ME” WEAPONS AT YOU LIKE GRENADES. THEY WILL BRING UP OLD MEMORIES, OLD PAIN, AND THE SAME OLD TIRED STORY THEY HAVE BEEN SPEAKING FOR YEARS? THEY USE THESES EXCUSES AS TO WHY THEY CANT CHANGE OR WHY THEY HAVE A BAD ATTITUDE OR WHY THERE CIRCUMSTANCES AREN'T GOOD. I'M SURE WE HAVE ALL RUN INTO THESE PEOPLE, AND YES, YOU MAY JUST BE THIS VERY PERSON.


WE ALL PLAY A ROLE IN EVERY EVENT IN OUR LIVES, EVERY EVENT. THE QUESTION IS ARE YOU LETTING STUFF THAT HAS HAPPENED IN THE PAST OR YOUR LACK OF RESPONSIBILITY KEEP YOU STUCK ON THE ENDLESS TRACK OF POOR ME? WE ARE ONLY A VICTIM IF WE LET OURSELVES BE. WE ALL HAVE CHOICES WE HAVE TO MAKE A MILLION TIMES A DAY.





WHILE YOU MAY NOT BE COMPLETELY RESPONSIBLE FOR WHAT HAPPENED, IT’S IMPORTANT THAT YOU STOP AND ASK YOURSELF “HOW DID I CONTRIBUTE TO THE OUTCOME.” ASKING YOURSELF THESE QUESTIONS HELP YOU GROW AND HELPS YOU TAKE RESPONSIBILITY. IT GETS YOU OUT OF THE VICTIM MENTALITY.


MAKING SMALL BEHAVIOR CHANGES TO YOUR ATTITUDE CAN HAVE BIG PAYOFFS IN YOUR LIFE. BE ACCOUNTABLE AND HOLD OTHERS ACCOUTABLE FOR THEIR OWN ACTIONS HELPS YOU TAKE BACK YOUR POWER.


LIVING IN VICTIM MODE OR WITH YOUR FINGER CONSTANTLY POINTING AT SOMEONE ELSE IS ONLY KEEPING YOU STUCK AND HOLDING YOU DOWN. IT IS IMPORTANT TO RECOGNIZE THAT FREEING OTHERS FROM BLAME IS ACTUALLY RETURNING ALL POWER AND SELF CONTROL BACK TO YOURSELF AND IN ESSENCE RELEASING YOU FROM PLAYING THE ROLE AS VICTIM.



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REFERENCE:

https://havilahcunnington.com/day-2-2/

https://www.lifehack.org/287448/14-signs-someone-always-playing-the-victim

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